What’s in my Avocado mask

If this isn’t your fist time reading my blog post, then you know I have 4c hair and it stays thirsty. I always have to keep it moisturized to avoid breakage. Avocado mask is one of the masks that nourishes my hair and makes it soft, and moisturized.

Below is what’s in my mask:

  • A medium sized avocado
  • 1 table spoon mayonnaise of your choice
  • 1 table spoon avocado oil
  • 1 table spoon coconut oil
  • 1 table spoon Manuka honey (you can use any other honey)
  • 1 table spoon melted shea butter
  • 1 tea spoon castor oil
  • Mix everything into a paste. Make sure your avocado is ripe, that way you will be able to mix it easily. Make sure your paste is smooth too or you will have bits of avocado in your hair even after you wash it.

Have a happy hair day!

Hair removal

As women, we always want to get rid of our body hair, but it’s not always an easy task. Some women don’t have lots of hair, so they don’t worry about things like facial hair. however if like me, you have hair everywhere. this post is for you.

  • For my facial hair, I love to go threading. Yes, it’s painful, but it lasts for a long time, also the more you thread the less the hair reappears. I also love how my eyebrows look. I only clean my eyebrows, because I’m not into thin eyebrows.

 

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  • For the rest of my body, I do sugaring. I personally don’t like waxing, because of some bad experiences. Sugaring is less painful, it pulls the entire hair out, and if you know me, you know I’m all about natural things, sugaring in 100% natural.

Lemons, honey, salt are antiseptic and medicinal

Enjoy my hairy friends!

My Moisturizers

In one of my posts, I talked about products I use for my oily face. Now let’s talk about the products I use every day. I have eczema and I live in the midwest, which means winters are rough. However we all know eczema doesn’t care if it’s summer or winter, you need to keep your body moisturized. yes, my friends moisturize, moisturize and moisturize.

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  • I loveeeee Kiehls cream de corps, I actually love a lot of things from them, but cream de corps is something I keep going back to. My skin loves it.
  • My face loves la Mer moisturizing soft cream. A lot of people complain about the price, which is a little much, but you do get what you pay for.
  • I add a little bit of bio-oil to my cream de corps. Don’t ask me why I just love how it feels on my skin. Bio oil by itself is great, just like cream de corps by itself is also great.
  • Lush’s Tea tree water, is something I can’t live without, Yes I have made that decision. This toner is amazing, it really helps with oil control. I spray it on my face everyday as much as needed.
  • Last but not least, is the Caudalie beauty elixir. It refreshes and gives you that I’m awake feeling. I usually use it after my night time routine. It has oil in it and since I have an oily face, I don’t like using it during the day. However, I will still spray it if I need to moisturize while on the go. I keep on in my purse.

Stay moisturized, and be kind!

The shaming of the girlchild has to stop

If you were raised in an Africa household, then you have been or are being shamed for one thing or another.

When you are a twelve-year-old girl and can’t make a decent pot of rice, or couscous, or whatever your family eats the most, your own mother will shame you with words like “how do you expect to find a husband if you can’t even cook.” Why can’t we teach our daughters to cook for their own feeding, and not for a man?

In Mali were I was raised, boys are not allowed to go into the kitchen, it’s a taboo. A kitchen is a woman’s place, boys don’t clean, cleaning is for girls. My questions are don’t boys need to eat, don’t boys need to be in a clean environment. What makes them better than girls. I think we should teach both girls and boys to cook and clean.

Then you reach 18, and no man has shown interest in you, your aunties start shaming you for not having a suitor. If your answer is “I’m still in school,” they say you can be in school and have a husband. Yes, it might be true that we can be in school and have a husband. I’m 30 and still in school with a husband and child. However, I think we are not mature enough to manage both at 18. I think we should encourage young girls to focus more on their studies, and a husband will come later.

Then you reach 25, and you are not married, you will be shamed for being too old and not having a husband. You will be reminded of how a woman can only have children at a certain age. How about we let women take their time and decide to get married when they feel comfortable and when they find the right partner.

When you finally get married and wait to have children, you will be shamed for not wanting to give birth. Now there are a lot of women who can’t have children, just like there are men who can’t get a woman pregnant. However, only the woman is a fault. Its time we let that friend, sister, and cousin who is suffering for not having a child know that it might not be her, that she and her husband need to go do some tests and that there are solutions it.

When you have a child and take time before having another one, you will be shamed. No one bothers to sit and think about the reasons you might not be having another child. There are so many reasons women decide to take their time before having another child, it could be you are not ready mentally, financially or physically, because we all know childbirth takes a toll on us. It could be you just don’t want to have more children.

As a woman and a mother, I think we should teach our children to cook because they need to feed themselves first. We should teach our children that having a diplomat is their first husband. After their diplomat, they should try to secure a job, so that they don’t ever have to depend on anyone. After they are married, they should have children when they want to, not when others want them to. It’s their body, and they are the ones that will take care of the child. Having a child is not an easy task and shouldn’t be done out of pressure.

We should remind our children, that this is their life, they should think about themselves before they do anything. Everyone telling them to do this and that has their own life to live, they shouldn’t let them live theirs as well. They should stand up and be in control of their lives.